After reading Helen’s column in A22 I am of the opinion that it veers against women dressing to please their men rather than encouraging them to do so. She intimates that men are selfish to expect their women folk to dress up in unorthodox clothing solely for their benefit. What she says would give the impression to women – who may be on the brink in indulging their husband’s whim – that dressing in such clothing is an uncomfortable and miserable experience and would spoil any sexual experience they might have. This does not encourage women to overcome any fears and prejudices they might hold about these unorthodox acts in dressing in the cause of love.
In ‘Loose v Tight’ (A22), Helen states that her sex are eager to wear and do things that will turn Him on (very debatable), but the difficulty is matching his turn on with her turn ons. As far as I am concerned this would be the least thing that a woman would have to worry about. I know that if my wife felt like sex, and dressed to please me, I should be immediately turned on by her appearance, so she would have no fears about my not being turned on when she required me to be.
I am not able to comment on the workings of a woman’s mind as regards their turn ons, for, as Helen says, they have a different make up from men. But I should think that any woman contemplating and planning a sex act for several hours beforehand should, at least, be a fair way to being turned on by her own thoughts and feelings by the time she commenced to dress. After about an hour with Him, I should think that she, even if not really turned on beforehand, would be starting to feel in a mood, despite any unalluring dress she might be wearing. When it was all over, no way would I let that delightful creature escape my clutches. She would be caressed until we both fell asleep and I would not, as Helen suggests in A24, ‘grope for the cigarettes’. That kind of behaviour is for those for whom the sex act has become stereotyped and ordinary.
In A24, under ‘Leather Saves’, Helen referred to my wife’s attitude. While it is gratifying to know that even a small part of ones moans is brought to notice, I feel that in this case that my predicament was used in her article only as a means of introducing the subject of economics. I would have preferred to have seen a few suggestions given to the ‘stupid woman’ as she phrased it – and to any other woman who may be denying her man the sight of her dressed in this material.
Certainly she was right in stating the economics of buying a leather coat, but she would have helped men with their problem if she had followed with a paragraph of quotes from women readers such as those published in past editions who appear to enjoy wearing leather and indulging their husbands’ love of the material.
– A Reader from Essex.